Are you among the ones whose friends regularly spend hours telling you how much he/she does not deserve you ? …that you should go out and make yourself available to new people to make them understand how much they are going to miss you …
That does not ring true to you a beyond the sound of their voice has faded away in your mind : a few minutes, three days top.
But did anyone ever told you though that what you love in him/her are qualities that you deny yourself, that you indeed have something to do with these people, but not much maybe outside of reflecting back at you what you see so good and bright on them.
Try with a quality you feel more familiar with and then climb the ladder.
Keep me posted !