Scientific inquiry into personal beliefs – Empirical SpirituaLOGY 101

The science of beliefs for me is not about listing them and explaining how they function, how they are formed by an array of cultural, national, family and personal influences.

Rather, it is about evaluating them (against the bliss and empowerment we get from them) and adapting them to these personal feelings. Meaning, if a belief does not produce the feeling that you want (bliss, empowerment, inner peace, sense of connexion, etc.) then change it.

Here is how scientific inquiry into beliefs works : if imagination is the end result of your imagination (my blog post on this) then we can use details of our realities and circumstances to ask ourselves : what is it that I must be believing for this to happen to me ?

It seems backward to your mind. But just try a few times. Be empirical about it.

For instance : for the Xth time, you are told that you are such, such and such. Hurt, triggered, your mind is most likely going into victim mode : “why me ? they are jerks, they don’t like me so I don’t like them. But that is not who I am”. Etc. Rather, ask yourself whether the fact that you can be said these things is only because they are possible for you to imagine and believe.

In the end, your life is what you say it is. Not the other way around. Try that. Change your beliefs about your life and look at your life changing !

Hope this helps ——————————————————————–End of transmission—-

 

 

 

 

 

 

SpirituaLOGY : academic rationality and contemporary spiritual syntheses

Stripped of dogma, spiritualities become mental, emotional and body “techniques”. Their potency does not suffer from rationality, au contraire ! Combined to empirical and academic inquiry know-hows, they constitute my proposal for contemporary awakening which, applied to love partnerships, with the intention to contribute to alleviating affective addiction and co-dependancy, constitutes the purpose of my blog.

I recently chose to endorse the twin flame label in this blog because of my conviction that its reason for existence dwells on the urgency to overcome affective addictions.

The attraction we feel to people is in proportion to the necessity to get out of emotional love states and leap into other ways to experience romantic connexions.

Empirical experiencing of techniques I have been sharing here, as a the social researcher I am would have with any other theory or concept, have lead me to know that cognitive exercises created out of spiritual techniques have a great impact of the quality of relationships.

Heart-felt authenticity is neither about being nice nor blame placing and less about making others change their mind. There is no pattern of behavior to interpret out of an authentic self life choices. Just stay in your shoes until you fill them in.

Onward.

SpirituaLOLity and SpirituaLOGY. The existentialism of bum notes and the shrunken melodies of guilt.

The “comic frame” was proposed by philologist Kenneth Burke** as the cure for scapegoats and drama in our personal and collective life scripts. Here is roughly how it works.

Along the harmony we are trying to play, that is the fidelity and inner coherence of our life stories, we hit bum notes. Many and everyday.

Whether these bum notes ought to become the center of our attention or  “mere passing notes” constitute the only one decision we have to make.

Because from a ridig point of view bum notes are a flaw or a mistake, they radicalize and polarize our interpretation because we look for the ones (including ourselves!) that could be responsible, even guilty, of the so-called mistakes. Clearly, without bum notes, we end up playing shrunken melodies !

If we center our attention on the overall harmony (what we dig doing), then the bum note becomes “a mere passing note” in Kenneth Burke proposal… and then becomes the pilar for the comic frame from which the bum note is opportunity for self-derision.

Your choice!

 

**References

Burke, K. (1969b). A rhetoric of motives (2nd ed.). Berkeley, CA: University of California Press.

Burke, K. (1970). The rhetoric of religion (2nd ed.). Berkeley, CA: University of California Press.

Burke, K. (1973). The philosophy of literary form: Studies in symbolic action (3rd ed.). Berkeley, CA: University of California Press.

Love thyself, especially shadow selves

Our capacity to love others depends on our capacity to love all parts of ourselves. The parts of us that we have grown up believing that they are “bad”must be our focus. Blatant flaws can include lying, manipulating, hiding, diverting from responsabilities, addictions, etc. Whatever this is, starting from now, just LOVE THEM ALL !

But sometimes, the shadow sides can be aspects of you that could not be praised within a specific family or national culture, but reveals themselves to be powerful gifts : creativity, such as being a painter or a musician, is sometimes not valued in an intellectual or blue collar family. The same way, sports abilities are sometimes not praised for some reason that you do not need to unveil. So there might be stirring in you creativities or abilities that you do not value or even consider or see, that could not endorse without shame or guilt… and even if you are on some level “meant” to practice it and give your gifts to the world. What a waste !

So love everything that arises in you. Even the part of you that is right now telling you that what you see in you is shit and worthless or uninsteresting, love that ! Once loved and acknowledged, this part of you will not want to control your decision about what is “good” or “bad’ within you.

Each and every single part of you, even those you judge as being ugly, have had reasons to exist througout your life : they have helped you deal, cope, survive difficult situations. For that, they expect your acknowledgement, as small children would, sometimes with tyrany … but if you give them what they need, they will let you be.

So give gratitude to the addict in you, to the egotic, violent, victime-complaining, food binger, judgmental, to the lyer in you, to the dishonnest, gold digger, pornographic parts of you, love them – love them.

Repeat until you feel them repleted and therefore much more discreet in you everyday life.

 

Thank you —-End of transmission ———–

 

 

 

 

Feel emotions as motion and light

Most of us were told to ignore emotions and solve them with reason. The few who were motivated to pay attention to emotions were rarely told how to do it efficiently.

As a result, most of us rarely feel comfortable with our feelings nor know ways to come to term with hurtful or uneasy ones. So we stay stuck with them, looping. Sometimes for years.

One wave of emotions truly felt only lasts from a few seconds to a few hours, top.

One easy and efficient way is to close your eyes, use your imagination when you feel in order to transpose feelings into forms and colors and movements inside and around you.

Slow and soft pastel yellow swirls or halos can appear in your imagination as feelings of lightness and confident belonging (safe friendship, accomplishment, etc.) … while electric, quick, spiky red balls or sticks or flames can suggest emotions closer to excitement from powerful expansive joy to anger.

Of course there is no set rules, only yours will apply.

Repeat this any time your jaws, chest, head get stiff. When anger, resentment obsess you. When you want to feel and share joy and excitment.

 

Thank you for your attention ———–End of transmission————-

Want obsessive thoughts out of your mind ? Blow them out of proportion.

What you resist, persists !

Hence, trying to get rid of or avoid sticky thoughts can result in making them linger even more.

Instead, let the unpleasant or disturbing thought occupy all your mental space without resisting … you soon realize that it is fading away.

Repeat as needed, as many times in a row as needed. Once settled, this habit becomes very efficient. Give it momentum.

Thank you————–End of transmission———————